If you really know me you know that I am a planner. I planned my own 30th birthday party and started planning it 3 months before my actual birthday. I had Ashlyn's 1st birthday theme picked out when I was pregnant with her. I had Quinn's first birthday theme picked out before I was even pregnant with her. I am a planner. This situation is no different. Should the worst happen, I need things planned. This includes her funeral. I know that this seems incredibly sad and hard and it is, but it is something that I have to face. I know that should we loose her, I won't be able to make rational thoughts let alone figure out how to plan a funeral. Therefore, I have to have at least the big things in place.
Simply because I didn't think that I would be able to make the calls, my best friend called a funeral home and the cemetery that Steve's grandparents are buried in for me. Yeah, not good. Between the 2 we were looking at around $3,000. Insert freak out moment here! Now this would be on top the $2,000 or so that we will be paying for the labor and delivery. Ugh!
I decided that I would go ahead and call a couple other places just to see if we could do something a little less expensive. I have no idea where I want to be buried so I had no idea where to call. Where ever we choose for Quinn, should we need to, is where Steve and I will also be buried. I decided to call Holy Cross which is a huge cemetery fairly close to home and work. That way should I want to visit her on my lunch hour I could. The man that I spoke to was amazing and he informed me that in this sort of situation they donate everything. Everything! We would get a plot, small headstone, and the opening /close for free! She would be buried in "baby land" which has a gorgeous angel that over looks it. Amazing! This will easily save us $1,000. I told Dale that I hoped I never had to call him again but I was so thankful for his time and the information.
Then it was on to the funeral home. First one I called was Anthony Funeral home simply because it is the closest to the cemetery. I spoke to the owner's son and he informed me that if I was worried about money to not be. The entire service would be a couple of hundred. Basically the only thing that we would be paying for is the casket and obituary. Now, tears of complete relief. I am so thankful to both of these places that should we need them, we know that we will be able to afford the type of service that Quinn deserves. I pray with all of my heart and sole that I won't have to use these services, but should we need to I am thankful that I found such wonderful caring establishments to work with. I feel much better knowing that should the worst occur that I at least know where to start to get a service and burial handled.
Both last night and this evening Quinn has been very active. I absolutely love every pop I feel from my little Bean. I can't get enough of her moving around in there. It brings me such peace to feel her to just know that she is alive and with me! I love you Quinn-Bean!!